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Misogyny at Work: An Inside Job
This week, I share about how we can start to chip away at the subconscious messages that have been wired into our brains that can hold us back in our careers, impact our relationships, and degrade the core of our self-esteem.
Where Can I Lodge a Complaint?
I used to struggle with the idea that if I said anything negative, I was ruining my positive outlook on life. I learned that there is a place and a need to release negative emotions, and even to complain, so long as they don’t become habitual.
Planning for the New Year
As the New Year is upon us, it's normal to be pulled to “get your ducks in a row," get organized and have sense you're walking into the new year with a solid plan.
I'd like to invite you to calm the intensity all that “doing” energy and invite your true “being” energy to the party, allowing you to lean gently and intentionally into what you're truly being called to in the year ahead. I've created a few steps to help you create a personal planning session for yourself as you start to welcome in 2022.
Embracing Your Growth Edge
A “growth edge” is that place that moves us from the known to the unknown, comfortable to uneasy, stagnation to growth. Very often people avoid leaning into a growth edge because it’s scary, overwhelming and, frankly, they don’t trust themselves. But taking an opportunity to embrace your growth edges - and even to take time to build some strength around them - allows you to step deeper and deeper into the person you want to become. Ready to give it a try?
Finding Worthiness
Self-love, self-esteem, self-regard, self-confidence and all the other ‘self-’ words are wonderful and important. But, the most crucial concept of them all is self-worth - the importance you place on yourself. It is a fundamental element of our being and controls the way we see ourselves both individually and in the world.
Why Finding Yourself Is So Important
Finding yourself, or knowing your truest self, allows you to continue moving forward, making progress in your life. It allows you to understand why you matter. It is a spot from which you can make decisions - big or small - without the need for external validation.
Without this sense of self, you will continue to measure yourself and your life by the standards of others. This is something that’s always shifting, always moving and will, frankly, leave you feeling like a failure. How can you ever live up to all those external expectations - from your partner, children, colleagues, boss, employees, friends, family and strangers in the social media world?! It’s exhausting just thinking about it!
Are You Living Your Values?
Your values are those things you believe in your heart of hearts are the most important way for you to live and work. They guide your thoughts, actions and decisions, and ultimately are a way to measure whether life is turning out the way you want it to.
When you are in alignment with your values, you feel fulfilled, content and satisfied. When you’re not, you feel frustrated, overwhelmed, bored and easily distracted. That’s why it’s so important to be able to identify and work with your values on a regular basis.
Three Things To Do When Fear Has It's Grips On You
Fear can get its grips on you at any time. Sometimes, we aren’t even aware of how much fear is dictating our lives and our choices. What would your work and life be like if you didn’t let fear guide your decisions? Here are some ways to identify when you’re operating from a place of fear, and three ways to work through it to the other side.
Free to be you… and me.
Habits are wonderful ways to simplify elements of our lives, but when we live our lives on autopilot, simply going through the motions, we lose our sense of direction - our sense of self.
We can build a life of design through intentionality with the guidance of our true self. But, to do this, we first have to be in relationship with our true self. And, unfortunately, most of us are not.
We look to others for guidance on the direction of our lives, gather opinions from voices outside ourselves and, in short, keep ourselves in a position to think everyone else has it figured out while we’re still struggling.
The reality is, all of the answers you need are within you. You are your own guiding star. It’s just covered up by decades of noise from outside yourself, so it can be really hard to hear or understand.
This week, I explore ways to reconnect with the deepest parts of yourself so you can have an opportunity to live life on your terms.
The Gift of Receiving
“It’s nobler to give than to receive.” Sound familiar? Most of us grew up hearing (and internalizing) this adage to the point we have quelled our ability to receive on a regular basis.
Whether it’s from fear of being selfish, a burden on others or possibly just the thought of others judging us and our capabilities, many of us haven’t practiced the art of gracefully receiving from others.
And yet, when we do, we open up opportunities for more meaningful relationships, better physical and mental health, and a deeper sense of self-worth. In this week’s blog, I dive into the ways we’re preventing ourselves from being able to comfortably receive, as well as how to take those baby steps towards accepting more regularly.
Dealing With the Unknown
The beginning of the new school year has come and gone. The excitement of what to come is coupled with the fears of what may be. One would think that after 18 months of dealing with uncertainty and the unknown we would have become adept at it. And yet, we’re still craving control. Control over our circumstances, our decisions, our lives. But, as much as we would like, the decisions other people make and their behaviors are not ever within our control. The one thing we can learn to do is to control our mindset.
The Importance of Moving from Doing to Being
One of the things I’ve learned through coaching - both as a practitioner and as a client - is the clear distinction between doing and being. The more time we focus on being instead of doing ultimately allows us to start to define our lives - both personal and professional - on our terms.
In this week’s blog, I walk you through several practices that can help you shift your focus from a place of goal oriented doing to a space of allowing and being. It’s only from this place that we can start to build our lives in the way that is most meaningful to us.
There’s Nothing Wrong With You
Psst… I have a question for you. How many times has something not gone to plan and your immediate reaction is “what is wrong with me?”
As women, demonizing ourselves is our #1 pastime and we don’t even get to enjoy it. Instead, we feel alone and swear everyone else has it together in ways we don’t.
Here are some reasons why we do this and strategies to start shifting from automatically believing you’re wrong to opening yourself up to the possibility of being right, just the way you are.
Getting in the Zone
We all have the opportunity to live our best lives. Often, we hold ourselves back because what we’re doing is “good enough” or we don’t think there’s anything else for us. But, what if I told you it’s possible to soar?
Believing in Possiblity
As adults, we generally move further and further away from believing in what’s possible and settling for what our brains believe is probable or likely to occur. And, since our brains are doing their best to protect us, they throw in all sorts of challenges that could occur, just so we’re prepared for the worst. Here are some ideas on how to start to tame your brain and start to open yourself up to what’s truly possible for you.